_It is almost impossible to send out invites to an event of any kind without ending up with a few youngsters at the party. Some hosts do not have a problem with flat out telling invited guests that they will have to leave their little treasures at home, and that's that. For most though, they wouldn't think of it. There are a few things to think about when making this decision and here are a few helpful ideas.
Take into consideration whether or not your event would be a safe and accommodating environment for a child. Maybe this is just simply a venue that is not kid friendly. If this is the case you could of course just ask that children not attend. If you would still like to have them there then make accommodations for them. What would they enjoy while at your event? The perfect idea might be separate tables or a separate room with a responsible sitter. If you choose this option then make sure you hire enough people to take care of and entertain them.
If you are in a situation of having babies in attendance then there is more to consider. Yes, you want the parents to feel welcome. You also want to look back on this day or watch your wedding video without a screaming baby and an uncomfortable set of parents in the audience. If you have a wedding planner, talk to them about the seating arrangements for these guests. They should always be seated near an exit on a row in case they need to leave. Someone on staff for the planner should be nearby to assist them as soon as they need help. This will make for a smoother ceremony and a relieved parent. As far as the reception and babies, be sure Mom or Dad know there is private place for changing and feeding.
Finally, what do you do with an unruly kid? If you have an event planner, send them to handle it. That is why you hire us! If it is just you, designate someone you trust to be kind for that job. Once you have spoken to parents and behavior continues down a bad path, it is perfectly acceptable to ask them to take them out of the room.
The truth is, this is not an easy subject to approach with some parents. Just keep in mind that they are a guest, invited by you. If you make arrangements in advance for these guests, you will be amazed at the difference in the day. The kids and parents will appreciate the thought you put into having them as guests. I have often attended weddings and parties where not only the host is frustrated but also that poor parent of child. When I plan an event I remember those times and am sure to accommodate the kids no matter what the age. It really has made all the difference in the world.
_Have you ever gone to bed, cuddled up with your remote and had that overwhelming feeling that there was something very important you are sure you forgot to do? Planning a wedding is the equivalent of that every day from the engagement date on. You are in a constant state of panic over every detail because you fear that guests will walk around judging every detail. In some ways you are right, some will. My advice on that has always been, you are letting them in on a wonderful part of your life, they should just be appreciative. The fact is, the people that love you will just share in your joy without picking your work apart.
With that said, keep you list of to do's in check. I rarely see a bride who is organized and on schedule. The plans they are trying to create are more than they have time for but they are not willing to downscale. This is generally when I get a call and have to put out a lot of fires. I do not mind at all but I feel terrible that they are so overwhelmed. This should be a calm, happy and memorable experience.
Sit down with your groom and discuss a budget, one that you can both live with. I assure you if you take out a loan for a wedding, your first married argument will likely be about money. Consult a planner even if you think you can't afford one. You may be pleasantly surprised that you can or that you can at least afford to hire them for some hectic details. Even if you do not hire a planner it will give you an idea of what you are facing. Stick to your budget, it will be the best thing you ever do for yourself. There are a number of wedding expenses that can be cut without affecting your big day.
Every bride wants the satisfaction of knowing she has included small details in her wedding to wow the guests. Let me say, you are your own worst critic. Make a check list with dates along side of the tasks. Keep a binder of every contract and receipt you receive. If you stick to just these two small organizational tools it will make a world of difference.
The one constant in my job is that every brides worry melts away as she walks down that aisle. It is a moment of absolute joy for me as well. The one thing you need to keep in the forefront of your mind is that you show the person you are about to marry that you have not forgotten what this day is about.
_I have planned just about every size and type of event you can imagine. Along the way my talents as a caterer and baker have integrated into my business as well. I have shared my love of great meals and desserts by teaching small groups in evening dinner parties. I am passionate about every piece of my business and the happiness of my clients.
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